Why are people Judgmental? that is only the tip of the iceberg? What is at the base?

You may be judgmental, and have been trying to change your behavior for a long time, unsuccessfully.

This, trying the change, is a part of a long string of things you are or have been failing at.

The REAL REASON is buried below several layers of justifications, and without getting to the base layer, the foundation of it, you will never be able to change the behavior.

You may be able to change what comes out of your mouth, but not what you think. Inside you still judge, and then pretend the opposite.

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You are weird

Why would I insult you like this? If it is insulting to you, I apologize. Looking from your mind, I am probably wrong.

But looking from reality, looking from existence, your behavior is weird.

Your actions are inconsistent with what you really want, your actions seem like preprogrammed… no matter what, behave this way.

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Your current “core” identity. How to find it, how to build a better one?

I have written in a previous post that I discovered that my hidden identity is “worthless piece of junk = unwanted”. I use the word junk, because this expression is a translation from my native Hungarian. In the original the expression is closer to “nothing” than anything, by the way. But in English, I am afraid, that won’t communicate. “I am nothing”, does it?

From time to time I notice it “informing my mood, informing my actions.”

I found a blog that I enjoy reading. The writer of the blog is intelligent, inventive, and although we have a different base world view (he prays, I don’t) I like his blog a lot. I researched him this morning. All the pictures on his blog are white folks… turns out he is a good looking Black guy from Florida.

Hm. What must be his “core” identity that he won’t show his face on his blog?

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How to Learn Many Things at Once… very useful if you are in my coaching program

learn-new-thingsThere’s so much you want to learn, need to learn, should learn… so much, in fact, that you don’t know where to start. Most people get inspired for some goal, sprint at max effort for 1-2 weeks, burn out, push … Continue reading

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How to Learn Many Things at Once… very useful if you are in my coaching program