The less spiritual capacities you have now, the less likely that new ones are willing to open up.
Especially if the new capacities would alter your being and behavior dramatically.

If you are a woman, you probably have fewer capacities than men, because in most cultures women are an appendage to a man. even the Bible relegate a woman to companion status. not a full person.
According to Kabbalah women are the vessel, and men are the channel for the Light.
The vessel is all about receiving, and the channel is all about giving.
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If LIFE wants more life, then Life and our DNA has a built in capacity, in the DNA, to see the big picture, both for ourselves, personally, for our families or offspring, and for the human race.

The direction this DNA is pointing is a society much like the Declaration of Independence declared: equal rights. Not equal results, but equal rights.

You have the right to procreate, but you need the agreement of your procreation partner… and that agreement, when it is guided by the DNA to see the different outcomes on many different levels, will either come or will not come.

Males of all species fight for this agreement… the female grants it to whichever male seems most fit to cause the survival of that particular species.

Except humans.

70% of women choose for looks and 91% choose for income… None for human qualities. Character.

Character would create an uncomfortable condition… where the women would have to grow… and develop character.
Human females are near sighted, and easily swayed.
I had an assistant some 30 years ago. She married a guy she met on the bus 20 years prior. The guy needed to get married to be able to stay out of prison… They married the same day.
The guy continued to be a criminal, a womanizer, and finally left her with nothing but the two kids.
She was surprised and outraged. She had lived with blinders on for 20 years: as long as the husband provided, all was well with the world, but when he took away the paychecks, she wanted him dead.
I watch the TV show, NCIS on Netflix. There is a character, Tony, who is a narcissist with no capacity for compassion or empathy. It is all about him and what he wants.

Women swoon about him. Woman consider his complimenting, flattering ways enough reason to like him.

Women like psychopaths. Psychopaths, sociopaths with no capacity for compassion, people with no capacity for empathy, the user of others.
Women are near sighted…
It seems that women need to evolve their big picture looking and empathy if we ever want to live in a world that is even a little bit interested in peaceful co-existence, mutual growth, peace, and striving.

Now, let me ask the question of nature or nurture. Are women this way by nature, or do they become like this, individually, by nurture, upbringing, ‘culture’?

What do you think? Please share your thoughts.

And, please, don’t take this article personally… even though this seems to be the rule, I have a hunch, that at least some my readers are the exception. Some…

PS: this is going to be unpopular… but I’ll risk it.

Traditionally Jews had a way to choose who to marry by a Schidduch… organized matchmaking. Scholars were pared with rich merchants’ daughters, so they can continue their education. The result has been a higher than average intelligence for Jews.

Nowadays this tradition is largely dead, and all the advantage is largely lost.
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Shifting baseline syndrome… bullying, low performance, judgmentalness, IQ…

I wrote about that yesterday. But today I want to write about the shifting baseline in the other direction. The direction we’d all like to shift our baseline. towards love, peace, harmony, togetherness, joy, and maybe even productivity.

Of course in a pull-popping, superfood guzzling world we all want instant.

There are a few examples for an instant shift that lasts…
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I am mentally and physically preparing for my coaching call tonight. I have watched some 15 videos, researched what others had to say…

I still feel unprepared to talk to a coach. By the way, it is clear to me that you don’t know what coaching is, or you wouldn’t be where you are at.

And it’s not personal.

The coach, so far spent ten minutes on a video to make me promise I’ll show up. The cost of not showing up. I have received three emails and two texts. That tells me many people don’t make the call.
What the coach hasn’t said so far is that only someone in action can be coached.
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Finally I decided to end hope and start a side-hustle… or why you aren’t growing.

My favorite part of the book, The Science of Getting Rich is  where he says: Start where you are.

Most people do their life half-assed, build half-assed projects, hoping that doing that they can have what they want: success, love, fulfillment… but that is not the way to go.
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Today finally I found out why the holidays lower your vibration.

Why I never knew it? Because for the past 42 years I have had no family, so I wasn’t obligated to participate in any of the festivities.

So there there, the first reason: it is not an invitation. It is like death and taxes. Unless you go, you are disinherited.

But somehow until today I wasn’t feeling it. I wasn’t feeling that there was no choice.
The tyranny of family.
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