Tag: physical sensations

What is the work to become an Expanding Human Being? A case study

The sentence I hear only occasionally, is “But what is the work?”

It is not because it is not a question that concerns many, it is because you are trained to know the answer, or at least pretend that you do.

I didn’t realize this until yesterday. I did not connect the dots… I didn’t see the forest for the trees.

What woke me up and made me see the big picture was an email from a new student.

And that, in spite of the fact that I had an opinion about her, a judgment, if you wish, that she talks to much and listens little.

Some of the time my attitude and my opinion matched 🙁 when I didn’t see that my opinion is a mind chatter, and that I can create my attitude freely.

Other times I had an attitude of service, in spite of my opinion of her predisposition to talk a lot.

And then the miracle happened. She started to ask clarifying questions, and… GASP! started to do the work.

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Is fear only an emotion? If it is: it rules. But maybe it isn’t… Maybe it is something that you can control

Fear talks… Depending on what it says, you’ll run, you’ll hide, or you’ll continue charging forward

I now have a coach to report to on what I accomplish in the project I started a week ago.

Just like you, my first report was something like this: “I know I did little, but there was this fear…”

“What does fear have to do with anything?” he asked… and I was dumbfounded. I know the guy, we’ve been friends now for 3-4 years, and he is always stopped by fear… Who is he kidding?!

I didn’t spend our time together to explain things, after all his role, this time around, is to coach me, not the other way around.

But, in this article, I’ll say everything about fear, and how it works. I will also talk about how to gain the upper hand, at least some of the time, in the face of fear. OK?

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In life you are either growing or you are shrinking, either evolving or dying

One of the major challenges for humans have is this constant need, this imperative to evolve…

In life you are either evolving or you are shrinking.

What’s the challenge really?

If you pay attention, every real or perceived threat to our survival, quality of life, or to our self-perception creates a strong emotional response. We call it fear, or anxiety, or anguish, or resistance… But no matter what you call it, it wants to activate the hide reflex.

You see, they say that the reflex is fight or flight, but it would be more apt to call the flight extreme hide, shrink, trying to fix.

Fighting is bad, because it’s ineffective, but so is the avoidance of any meaningful work.

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