Authenticity is a matter of integrity on the highest level

Trying to act like a Buddha won’t make you a Buddha.
I just finished a webinar… Before the webinar one of my students wrote an email to me wondering why I don’t lie to them before and during a webinar. Why I don’t say that it is going to be easy. That it is going to be piece of cake.

But it had taken me quite a bit of time and effort to learn that trying to act like a Buddha won’t make me a Buddha.

The vulnerability that honesty requires isn’t something everybody can handle. So lying allows people to be comfortable.
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Why are you not able to sustain a new mindset? Sustain Change? Sustain Evolution? Sustain Growth?

Update: if you think you don’t retain or sustain a new mindset, chances are, you never internalized it, so there is nothing to retain or sustain. Same with transformation.

Before we can talk about retaining: first you have to have it… you cannot lose what you never had. Thinking you had it is not the same as having it.

Thinking about flying isn’t… So beware, if you come back to this post over and over again, you are probably delusional… So snap out of it. Have something so you can lose it… Learn how to attain, and then if you lose it, then this article is for you…

Yesterday I spent 90 minutes with my coaching client.

This is what I learned:

You are not retaining any of the insights, any of the knowledge you read. And because my site, my programs need you to retain what you were taught, my programs, with you, are wholly ineffective.

I already saw this when I was in Landmark programs: I saw that even seminar leaders don’t retain the knowledge, the coaching, they get.
Change is not enough. We must evolve… evolution is irreversible
Every new seminar they start from zero, or near zero.

I retain everything. But what is the difference between them and me, you and me? Am I superior? Am I special?

So solving this puzzle has been the biggest mountain to climb for me.

It is not that I am smarter. it is not that.

I got the clue from Atlas Shrugged… I knew I had a reason to read it again (third time) I just didn’t know what it was.

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Internal and external barriers to growth, changing, success, the good life

Is that a distraction? Does that get me closer to my target? One of the big issue I see with people is this: You have big desires… but you don’t consider doing the things you have to do to attain … Continue reading

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Internal and external barriers to growth, changing, success, the good life

Unflinchingly

i-start-counting-when-it-hurtsIt took quite a bit for me to learn that trying to outwardly act like a Buddha won’t make me a Buddha. The above line is from one of my students. Really smart guy, isn’t he? And I bet you … Continue reading

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Self-coaching demonstrated

what-coaching-is-notHm, it seems that “Source” or my inner guidance, or soul, or whatever is doing this guidance thing… is intent for me to have integrity: speak from experiential truth. So it seems from the few “trips” it’s been sending me. … Continue reading

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Rules for a life that is not prescripted

I almost snubbed this link a reader sent me… She is quite talkative, so I thought it was b.s… but integrity didn’t allow me to skip it. And I watched it, and wept, and laughed, and felt that those of … Continue reading

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Rules for a life that is not prescripted

Unless you like yourself, you won’t like your life either…

love-yourself-like-your-life-depends-on-it-because-it-does-quote-1Unless you like yourself, unless you feel good about yourself, you won’t like your life either. Happiness is liking yourself and your life. Not the Smokescreen… What the smoke screen you set up hides about you… the nasty stuff… or … Continue reading

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How do you use the three levels of value in your “real” life to fall in love with yourself?

Coconut Is it good for you?How do you use the three levels of value in your “real” life to fall in love with yourself? The article asking: where do you look to define your value got a lot of “hits” and comments. Reading the answers … Continue reading

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How do you use the three levels of value in your “real” life to fall in love with yourself?

Why can’t you make things happen? Why can’t you make your life work…

integrity firstYou’ll hate me for this… but hate me as much as you want, this is why: Your integrity is shot. Without integrity nothing works. Sounds very general, and definitely doesn’t seem to have anything to do with you: you are … Continue reading

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Liar liar pants of fire

cc0fce7485979e5587c2a73292faf2afSome people lie more than others. But all people lie… Lying by commission and lying by omission. Facebook is nauseatingly full of lies and liars. You lie to your loved ones and you lie to yourself. You lie because it … Continue reading

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